Friday, May 28, 2004
how to make your man very happy
Want to know how to make your partner's face light up? Say to him, "We might need to have sex tonight. And tomorrow. And several times after that for the next week or so."
Hee. :)
Wednesday, May 26, 2004
whee!
Is it bonkers to be excited about trying out an ovulation prediction kit for the first time? Yes? Oh.
I'm kind of excited about it and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I mean come on, how fun is this? You pee on a stick until you get a positive reading, and then you go at it like drunken teens for two days afterwards. Yippie!
Oh, humour me.
Friday, May 21, 2004
signs you're not quite as insane as some people #329
After that last little rant, I have to say that I do feel better. Admittedly, it still gets my goat that some people seem to get pregnant simply by using the same shower as their spouses, but I'm still optimistic. It's actually quite exciting to think that we can start trying again now. The two week wait sucks, the getting my period thing sucks, but it's not really that long before you can start again and have another couple of weeks of anticipation.
It helps to read through some of these pregnancy Web boards because quite honestly, you will never feel or be as insane as some of the women who post there. Of course some of the women (most, really) seem like lovely, level-headed people who know a lot about conception and have gone through a lot to have a baby. Then there are some who are just plain loopy. I've seen messages like "My partner doesn't want kids. Can any of you point me to any articles or statistics I can use to convince him?" (one person suggested putting pinholes in the condoms).
I shouldn't be surprised; I've seen this sort of thing on other news groups before (like the dieter who wanted to know how many calories were in Night Nurse so she could factor them into her daily food journal). There is definitely such a thing as too much information, and too much misinformation as we rely on the Internet to educate us. It's always nice to have somewhere to go for support, but too many people refer to the Internet for medical advice. I have to admit that I've asked for people's opinions in news groups, but I see it more as the sort of information you'd get while chatting to a good friend over a cup of coffee. It is probably based on past experience, it's probably fairly accurate, but I would still rather see a doctor for the more serious stuff.
In the meantime, like my patented Diet Plan© ("eat less, move more"), I shall stick to the basics because that's what usually works. So my patented Baby Plan® is: "shag like rabbits until I've ovulated". It's so crazy, it just might work.
Tuesday, May 18, 2004
signs you're going insane #278
I promise not to fill this blog with lots of "woe is me" kind of posts or writing that is borderline teen angst/ode to my cat. Having said that, this post shall wallow in self pity slightly, but only because this is the one place I can vent. It'll be over soon, honest.
I am now at a point where I vacillate between seeing people with babies and feeling all warm and fuzzy inside, to seeing people with babies and wanting to grab them by the collar and ask how long it took them to get pregnant. I am getting increasingly vexed at the fact that the entire world seems to be pregnant except for me. (I didn't say this post would be logical; please bear with me.) Rumour has it that even Kylie is pregnant. Geena Davis just gave birth to twins at age 47. Stupid Paltrow just gave birth to an Apple.
It isn't rational by any stretch of the imagination, but it's not really in my nature to be terribly realistic. All I know is that I want to have a child and why on earth does the whole process seem so complicated? I suppose a lot of us go into this thinking that all it'll take is a bit of unprotected sex (remember when we were teenagers and we were warned about getting pregnant using the withdrawal method?) and that getting pregnant was fairly easy. Armed with the knowledge of my ovulation cycle, I thought it would be a cinch. You have sex, you ovulate, hurrah, you're pregnant. It's only month two. Do I get more or less mental than this as time goes on?
Rant over. I thank you.
Sunday, May 16, 2004
no joy
I got my period today and it was no less heartbreaking than last month, even though I thought I was being a lot more relaxed about it. I didn't even realise I was close to being due until a few days beforehand (I was in such a bad mood from work that I didn't even notice it was PMT time) and unlike last month, I didn't hone in on every little twinge and slight oddity desperately searching for signs of pregnancy. This month, I was pretty sure that we didn't manage to conceive and I looked ahead to next month (our last try before the wedding). Regardless, when I knew for certain that I wasn't pregnant, I cried and cried.
I know, it's only the second month. It still really sucks, though.
Tuesday, May 11, 2004
sorry to disappoint
The osteopath greeted me with a wide smile and asked excitedly, "Any good news?" No, I said. Not so far, but maybe this month - I'll know in about a week. With a slight look of disappointment he said, "Oh. Okay." and our session began.
I don't think this poor man can take much more.
Monday, May 10, 2004
say what?
I don't get it. Fertility Friend tells me that I'm fertile for a couple of days before and a couple of days after I ovulate (up to three days before and after, to be precise). The Miriam Stoppard book I'm reading says that I'm fertile for about a day before ovulation, and possibly a day after. Baby Centre says that I'm fertile 1-2 days before ovulation, but there's some doubt about whether or not I'm fertile after. Some sites say that sperm can live (and thus fertilize an egg) for up to 5 days. Dr. Stoppard says it's more like 24 hours.
Why is this such an inexact science? Modern medicine, my eye.
Tuesday, May 04, 2004
that's the sound of crickets
Apologies for the lack of posts lately. I suppose I haven't really had anything new and interesting to say (of course, that infers that my writing is usually interesting, which is debatable). I still think about babies a lot, I do the odd bit of reading (I think I know more about ovulation than I ever wanted to know), and still keep track of my temperature. The only change is that we've altered the babymaking plan a bit; we'll try this month and next but then wait until after the wedding to try again. There is some sort of logic behind this plan, honest. I figured that if I'm 4-5 months pregnant at the wedding a) I shouldn't be throwing up on people by that point (now I've just jinxed myself, I know) and b) I will be past that critical first trimester before travelling overseas. On the plus side, the wedding dress I've selected laces up at the back so there's room for expansion. Woohoo!
I don't think there will be much luck this month. My temperatures are all over the place and I don't think we got the timing right. It'll happen when it happens and not expecting anything means pregnancy will be a pleasant surprise. Am I convincing anyone yet? Damn.